Dear girl (adolescent, youth, or adult),

When you meet a guy you really like, be sure to ask for an open line of communication. Just say, “Hey! I value honesty in my relationships so, can we be straight forward with each other about our intentions and expectations?” This is one lesson I have taken away from my encounters with guys and many conversations with my girlfriends. You know those girlfriend conversations when you’re like “I’m not sure if he likes me…,” or “He said ____, but I don’t know what that means?” Yeah, those ones! They’re not very fun, and they signal miscommunication. Blurred lines create disappointments and mishaps. One of the ills in society is that there are too many blurred lines between people of the opposite sex. And for this reason, some people have said that it is not possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends. While I can say that I have guy friends who are indeed just friends, I also realize that when/if care is not taken with each other (and we get too close), human nature (aka our hormones) goes to work. And, this often creates a complicated relationship and most times ends the friendship. So, when you meet that guy who makes your stomach feel like you have butterflies or who peeks your romantic interest, be straight forward. I bet you, he’ll respect you a lot more and you’ll feel like a Champ! Besides, being straight forward makes whatever happens next (good or bad) less blurry… and I think less blur is a good thing 🙂

So, dear girl, I hope you always remember that you are brilliant, beautiful, and brave. You never know until you ask; and asking, my friend, makes things less complicated.

Stay strong,

Mizz “O”

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